I have to admit that besides wanting control over my own time, another reason I was so interested in retiring was to have control over my own self-esteem. When I was working, a hefty amount of my self-worth was impacted by what others thought about me (mainly my bosses, but also my co-workers.) A glowing performance review or nice, big raise would have me feeling just great about myself. Feeling valued made me feel valuable. A critical comment or, worse yet, periods of no feedback at all would have me assuming the worst. While I was working, I let an inordinate amount of my self-image be influenced by what others thought about me.